Let's get back to sex. Married sex is a lot of like teenage sex--rushed, hidden and frustrating. It often happens in dark, confined spaces at odd times. It ain't the best sex you've ever had, but hell it's sex. The ultimate expression of love.
The biggest challenge of married sex is not getting caught. (Again like high school sex.) Because if your kids catch you in the act no amount of therapy is going to erase that shock. You can't explain it away. "Daddy was just hugging mommy." Yeah right. Kids are smarter today.
When oyu have kids you have to keep things on the DL (Dwon Low Duh?) and work extra hard to keep that spark alive. It's worth it. Then again there is always divorce, which may be right for you, not me and that's The Bitter Truth